MY TEAMMATE (HUSBAND AND WIFE)

Family Life Class Teaching 

The weaknesses of your husband or wife are not something you should despise.

Every single human being, no matter his or her status, has some areas that they need to improve upon.

 See yourself as there to help them become better. Don't beat them down for their shortcomings.  And don't make them feel less than anybody else.

 The man or woman you are looking at who seems perfect, also have their flaws. Their spouses have learnt to either endure those flaws or help them become better.

Make the choice to be a helper! This is not just for the wife or the husband. Marriage is for both of you where you both should be fulfilled so each one has their part to play in enhancing the other and building the marriage.

In fact, I believe that if your spouse becomes worse and not better after marriage, you should ask yourself some hard questions.

You should not be ok with that and blame them! Good things in you should rub off on them or vice versa. Most people leave their spouses to themselves but that should not be so; you are one and the same in God's eyes and you should do everything you can to ensure your marriage and family progresses instead of pointing fingers.

Yes, naturally you may feel frustrated if your spouse may behave contrary; in those moments go to God - He is the very present help in times of our need. Keep speaking life until it manifests physically in your home.

Demonstrate love without reservation. The bible says love covers a multitude of sin - I like to say that true love covers all weaknesses or flaws.

Make up for your spouse’s weaknesses with your strengths. My husband uses his strengths to cover my weaknesses and I do the same for him; that way we build a strong team where both of us are fulfilled.

Just like your child can never become better if you keep telling them how dumb and stupid they are, your spouse can never become better if you pick on them.

Can any team become stronger when the team mates insult each other and tear each other down? Can they ever have victory in whatever sports or industry they are in? NEVER! They rally around each other and do everything they can to become stronger - if that trophy must be in their possession.

My point here is that majoring on your spouse’s weaknesses will never bring out the best in them and will only cause your family life to deteriorate!

God will help your understanding in Jesus name